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Attitudes vs. habits

at⋅ti⋅tude:
–noun

1. manner, disposition, feeling, position, etc., with regard to a person or thing; tendency or orientation, esp. of the mind: a negative attitude; group attitudes.

hab⋅it: 

–noun

1. an acquired behavior pattern regularly followed until it has become almost involuntary: the habit of looking both ways before crossing the street.

 

I am not suggesting that people confuse these two words.  I doubt that it happens often, if ever.  I just think I have made a discovery about myself.  It has not been life-changing yet, but I suppose if I continue to be aware of it, it could help things a bit.  In regard to my home being constantly cluttered and downright messy, I have always tried to change my habits so that it won’t be so bad.  What I realized today is that the root of the problem is not those bad habits in housekeeping, it’s my bad attitude about it.  I do dishes each day – more or less – but my attitude remains the same: I hate doing dishes!  I find it very hard to see the point in daily housekeeping, but I also can’t stand the way my house looks when it is a mess.  I feel like taking care of my house each day will just make me bitter about my role – this is all about my attitude.  And to be honest, I don’t really know how to change it. 

I realized something else yesterday – I try to make change occur quickly, rather than one step at a time, and this is probably why that change never sticks.  It’s like fad diets – they work fast if you stick to them, but if you come off the diet for even a short time, it’s all too easy to gain weight back.  The picture that came to my mind was a mountain.  The distance from the ground to the top of the mountain is equal to complete change.  You may have access to a helicopter that can fly you directly to the top, saving you time and helping you to feel as though you have changed, but hiking up will actually be more effective.  It may take far longer to change – weeks, months, even years, but in the end, you will have experienced the change one step at a time and will know the way if you backtrack at all. 

So, as uncomfortable as it is, I am going to try change one step at a time.  This is applicable not only to my house, but also to my faith, my relationships with others and the opinion I have of myself.  It may take years to accomplish a noticeable change in any of these areas, but I know it’s the better way to go.

Philippians 1:6 says, “And I am certain that God, who began the good work within you, will continue His work until it is finally finished on the day when Christ Jesus returns.”   This scripture backs my view that change cannot be accomplished in one move.  If the work God began in us cannot be finished until the day Christ returns, then surely a change in attitude or habit cannot be finished for a good long time, either. 

I generally don’t mention my faith much on this blog, as its purpose has been more of a rant about the state of my house and other earth-bound topics, but here, I feel it is worth bringing up.  Whether you believe what I do or not, I believe most people will agree that any change is best accomplished slowly, so as not to fall off the wagon, so to speak.

Anyway, I will try to keep you up to date on how my step by step change of attitude and habits is going.

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Where on Earth have you been?!?

Or rather, where have I been?  I know, for awhile there it looked like I’d be writing nearly every day, and then I just quit.  I’m pretty sure something was going on when I first stopped writing, but then I just started reading so much, I didn’t feel like writing.  I made my way through about five novelsand I’m almost at the end of the sixth with one more in the queue.  I also cut my hair and pierced my nose since my last post.  I don’t even think I mentioned planning to do those things.  The nose is something I’ve wanted to do for a long time and the real reason I decided to cut my hair is that it was worth fifteen points in the photo scavenger hunt I’m doing for the city.  But since I pierced my nose on a Saturday and cut my hair on the following Tuesday, I’ve made a few people think that I’m having something akin to a mid-life crisis.  The haircut is pretty extreme for me…even though it isn’t very extreme at all.  It’s just pretty short in a few places and somewhat trendy.  Yeah, I know.  I usually just hate trendy things, but I’m very happy with the outcome.  As for my nose, it hurt like crazy but I love it and even Mike is getting used to it.  He had about a year and a half to think on it…seeing that I decided then that I really wanted to do it.  It just took me this long to actually get it done.  The funny thing is that typically all this new-ness would have cost me a pretty penny, but I had a coupon for a free body piercing (I know..funny, isn’t it) and it only cost me $2.50 for the tax or something.  Then I called around and found a salon in town that has an apprentice who is FREE!  Hooray!  My sister-in-law actually got her hair cut for free the hour before I did and both of our cuts turned out pretty nice. 

Anyway, before I start to gross myself out with all this self-glorifying writing (that’s what it feels like anyway), I will say that all the reading has definitely affected my house negatively.  I did finally sweep up on Monday night and put a bunch of things away, but the kids’ room, our room and the kitchen have been in need of work for months without being touched.  I almost feel inspired today, but the temperature is rising fast inside and out and I may wimp out in favour of laying in bed in front of the fan when I have some time.  It seems like the only time that the house is cool enough to work in is the middle of the night, and there’s no way I’m going to clean in the middle of the night.  So for now I’m going to do what I can and wait for cooler weather.

Our trip south is rapidly approaching – in about two weeks, we should be in Washington and then in Oregon on the 23rd for my sister’s wedding.  At the moment, I’m just waiting for Mike to talk to his boss about taking two extra days than what he asked for.  Here’s hoping…

So, no promises, but I’m thinking about slowing down on the reading after I finish the next book, which would probably mean more writing.  But you never know, I may find something else to occupy my time.

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