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My Feelings about Housework

Every so often, I think it’s a good idea to reflect back on the reason I started this blog, and in particular, the reason I named it what I did. I’m going on four years of blogging in June, and while I mostly talk about my kids and my “everyday life”, I still feel pretty much the same about housework. Otherwise known as “The H Word”.

Just before Christmas, I found a brilliant fridge magnet that sums it up: it says, “A mind is a terrible thing to waste on housework”. My thoughts exactly. Thank you, fridge magnet creators. You read my mind.

I go back and forth between guilt and peace when it comes to the state of my house. It’s small, for one thing, so it’s very hard to keep clean. The lack of storage means that there is a lot of clutter. The four children under the age of six mean that there are lots of toys, book, clothes, etc. These factors make me feel okay about the way things are. I’m at peace with the fact that this is not the time in life to expect spotless floors and clear countertops. There will be crumbs on the floor and dust on the shelves. I have my hands full with the needs of my husband and children. And really, I would rather hang out with my kids than clean up after them. They’re only young for so long and then it’s gone.

The other side of this is the terrible thoughts I get when I imagine people dropping by unannounced. I imagine that pretty much everyone keeps their house cleaner than I keep mine. I know that it’s not true (um, have you seen Hoarders? Shudder…), but can’t help but think that way anyway. My mother and mother-in-law are both very neat people by nature who like things in their place. They don’t seem to mind a bit of cleaning, unlike me. I feel like pitching a fit every time I’m forced to do it. I feel better afterward, but feel like a pouty teenager when I’m in the middle of it.

I tell myself that things will be better when we have a larger home. Right now, we live in 768 square feet. Yes, it’s small. Very small, especially for six people. I wrote about that in a previous post, but it’s very relative to this subject as well. Maybe I use the size of my home as an excuse to avoid cleaning, but it works well enough for me.

Anyway, when it comes down to it, I try to do the basics. Keep the dishes and laundry done. Keep the bathroom from growing unidentifiable things in the corners. Make sure there aren’t too many things on the floor for Ben to munch on. It might sound lazy and irresponsible to some, but I know there are other people who feel the same way. There will be a time in my life when my kids aren’t home anymore, and maybe then I’ll spend more time on housework. Or, maybe I’ll spend all my time in my studio (the dream one), writing and creating. Who knows.

For now, I’m happy to spend my time getting to know my kids, who are growing up way too fast. Spending my free time using my brain instead of my elbow grease. I’m not alone in this, right? Yeah, I didn’t think so.

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Day 5: Psalm 36:7

For a reminder of what I am doing this month, read this post.

Psalm 36:7

How precious is your unfailing love, O God! All humanity finds shelter in the shadow of your wings.

No explanation for why VOTD had no verse for March 31, but today’s verse was an April Fool’s joke (not appreciated, although it was funny), so we are back to Air1 for our verse of the day today.

I have just returned from an awesome prayer meeting with three of the girls from my Thursday morning Bible study.  We are all young moms, which certainly makes it easier to understand what the others are going through, and I think it also made praying together more natural.  We met after our kids were in bed, which further enhanced the experience, since for the most part, we weren’t spending time worrying about them. 

This verse is therefore so appropriate for today, even though I have only read it just now, after eleven at night.  I felt as though we really were under His wings tonight, and that He was there with us, listening to our requests, both mundane (in our eyes) and serious.  We prayed for our families, for pregnancies, for health, healing, wisdom, encouragement, peace, patience, and so much more, and through it all, He was with us.  I felt led to other scriptures during our time praying and they, too, were proof of His presence.  I have forgotten over time what it feels like to be in His presence daily, but I want that to change.  I truly want to see His unfailing love as precious, and to take shelter in the shadow of His wings. 

I spent the first twelve hours of my day running here and there, doing errands and cleaning my house, taking a break in the middle to share some sushi with a dear friend who kept my kids for me during most of this time.  I feel very satisfied with the work I got done, but it all pales in comparison to the feeling I had during that prayer meeting.  It really put things in perspective for me, anyway. 

Now I just have to hope I get enough sleep to be awake during Bible study tomorrow.  I suggested to the girls that maybe Wednesday nights are not the best night to meet, as it gets late and we all have to get up early the next morning.  It sounds like this may be happening as often as every two weeks, which I would really enjoy and benefit from. 

Anyway, may you look at things in perspective today – even if your house is a wreck, God is listening, watching and loving you every minute.  If your life is a wreck (even if your house is clean), this is still true.  Nothing you have done can take His love away – it is unconditional and eternal.  He knows your needs before you have even asked Him (Matthew 6:8), He will take the burden from your shoulders (Psalm 81:6) and you can do all things through Him who gives you strength (Philippians 4:13)!

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